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Love     Upon examination of the vast amounts of theories on kip d have I can only findmyself in a much convoluted state. Love is in fact a great riddle to me, and I arrive only achieved frustration in trying to get it. In Scott collars bookThe Roadless Traveled thither are a conglomerate of avenues that are exploredwithin the topic of love. It is here that some discernment is expressed to me aboutthis perplexing military issue. Although I do feel that existing life experiences that Ihave been involved in recently have attri furthered to a better understanding of thislove phenomena, some of the ideas that are expressed in this book were oftremendous merit. I find it almost predictive that this assignment happens tofall into the same time frame as when I am at a point of heightened curiosity onthis subject of Love. Why at this very moment I find myself wondering(a) mycurrent status with a newfound relationship. I cant help but to assume that Ihave found & quotGenuine Love" because of an whelm feeling of vivaciouscontent upon finding a seemingly undefiled union. Pecks views on love in thisrespect differ from what my thoughts have conjured up as such. And I can onlyinfer that the words of a reputable author and doctor are more legitimate thanmine. It is here that I must stop to apologize to you, Louis, for making thispart of the cover far too personal than necessary.     "Falling in Love" is a common myth in this society. The actual act of move in love, according to Peck, is a misconception. There is adifferentiation to be do between what is termed "falling in love" and the actof real loving. Peck describes exactly what it is that we experience when Wethink we have fallen in love. a great deal of what Peck describes as falling in lovehas to do with what he calls "ego boundaries". These ego boundaries areestablished during infancy and continue to collapse throughout the persons life. These boundaries represent an individuals limits with their mental and physicalpower, as they are sensed by the individual. With these ego boundaries manypeople feel confined into their own personal identity which generally creates afeeling of loneliness. A adopt to form a cathexis is then developed. Peckdescribes it thus, "The essence of the phenomenon of falling in love is a suddencollapse of a division of an individuals ego boundaries, permitting one to mergehis or her identity with that of another person. The sharp release of oneselffrom oneself, the explosive pouring out of oneself into the beloved, and the